Most people would readily say, “Yes, of course, I have values!”
If pressed to explain how you experience those core beliefs, well that is a bit more complicated.
Defining the shape of your values is said to provide harmony between your mind, body, and spirit. The idea is, the more you align your choices with your moral compass, the happier and more satisfied you will become.
Happier? More Satisfied? Yes, Please! Where do I sign up?
VALUE – noun
1) the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.
2)a person’s principles or standards of behavior; one’s judgment of what is important in life.
I’m very verbal. I communicate with ease. Yet, I found this process extremely laborious….What pained me the most is that I didn’t know why. Presented with a laundry list of key words to get my juices flowing and construct my top six, I froze.
Deer in the headlights.
My eyes skimmed over the pages, looking for a word to snag, as if fishing in one of those stocked fish farms. All of the words gasping at the surface for an opportunity to be chosen. If they didn’t leap out at me, why? Shouldn’t they be important too? Pressure….
I started this assignment…several times…without headway…
Why was this so difficult. Of course I have morals and ethics, right???
Diving deeper, I wondered what it meant to “experience values”? Was I allowing my moral compass to direct and organize my life? Or, was it residing in a dusty file cabinet, under the dim flickering lights of a back room that I only visited when in dire straits?….I knew they were there…but how often was I pulling them out to review? I thought I was living out loud, but maybe I wasn’t….Ah-haaaa….
Abandoning the official list, I allowed my heart to take the lead to illustrate and craft what this all means to me.
Her voice is ALWAYS the one that speaks the loudest.
The truth is, I realized there were times that I was ALL in and others, that I simply wasn’t. If the goal is to utilize your core beliefs in every decision, I should consult with her more often. Investing in this relationship is imperative. Her voice can’t be submerged by the day to day hustle and bustle, but so engrained that it rolls off my tongue with ease.
She holds the key to more happiness and satisfaction.
She is kind of a big deal.
At the end of this project my list consisted of :
Balance, Family, Growth, Faith, Happiness, Kindness.
I am a work in progress.